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DIY Valentine’s Day Backdrop (You Can Make Today!)

DIY Valentine

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I made the background in that photo in an afternoon. (Well, technically I didn’t make it. My little girlies did.) And it only cost me around $30, a fair amount of cleanup, and a little bit of my sanity!

Here’s what you need:

 Foam Hearts (probably 2+ packages)

Chunky Glitter in red, pink , purple, or whatever colors you want! (Note: I used the brand Tree House Glitter from Hobby Lobby, but these are Amazon links in case you’re a shop in your pjs kind gal!)

White Simply Tacky (I got mine at Hobby Lobby for like $1.99… I don’t know why it’s so e’spensive on Amazon!)

Glue (I just used whatever Elmers glue we had at home)

Paintbrushes (ones that you don’t mind getting all gluey- we tried a couple, and I found foam brushes like thisworked the best)

Yep, that’s it. That’s your whole shopping list for this project. Once you have the materials, here’s what you (or your kiddos) do:

Make the backdrop

Step 1. Grab a heart and stick it on top of a piece of paper. The paper is going to act like a funnel for pouring excess glitter back in the container.

Step 2. Spread the glue evenly across the heart

Step 3. Sprinkle glitter in a corresponding color with the heart (red glitter on red hearts, pink glitter on pink hearts, etc.) generously over the heart (this is the part that cost me a fair bit of my sanity as I watched my two year old get a little overly enthusiastic with glitter dumping).

Step 4. Lift heart and gently shake off excess glitter onto paper.

Step 5. Funnel excess glitter back into container.

Step 6. Set aside glitter heart at a designated “drying spot” to let the glue and glitter set.

Step 7. Repeat steps 1-6. (Until you run out of hearts, glitter, or patience.)

It’s okay if the hearts and glitter aren’t a perfect color match. Having the coordinating color underneath just makes it a little more forgiving if you end up having some uneven glitter spread. I used the same three colors of glitter on the white ones.

Setup the Backdrop

Where you set up the backdrop is entirely up to you! I recommend shooting in your favorite natural light corner of your house. The best spots tend to have windows facing north or south since those windows don’t get direct sunlight. One thing I do not recommend is having your light source right in front of your backdrop (i.e. right behind where you will be shooting). I haven’t tried it, but methinks the glitter might be blinding if you do this.

Once you’ve chosen your wall, figure out how high and wide you need the backdrop to be. I knew that I only needed enough for a headshot of each of my 3 kiddos. So I had my oldest come over and I eyeballed the area I needed to cover.

Now that you know how big of an area you need to cover, start applying those hearts to the wall! Use the simply sticky by rolling it into a ball and placing it on the back, middle of your glitter heart. Then simply stick it to the wall. Yes, some glitter will fall off in this process, but if you did a decent job covering the heart, you won’t be able to tell in the pictures. Continue placing hearts on the wall, overlapping them to avoid seeing the wall through the backdrop.

The key to making this backdrop look awesome is in your depth of field. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, then you’ll probably be disappointed with your results (I’m sorry to say!). I shot at f/2.0 and had my subject about a foot or two away from the backdrop. Experiment with your f stop and subject placement until you find the right amount of blur you want.

So there you have it! An easy-peasy DIY Valentine’s Day backdrop!

DIY ValentineNote: This is not a make it and store it professionally kind of backdrop. This is like an oh-shoot-it’s-almost-Valentine’s-Day-and-I-haven’t-gotten-anything-for-the-kids’-grandparents-type backdrop! In other words, the glitter is pretty fragile on there, so set up and shoot as soon as you can!

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Best Shade of Blue for Your Skin Tone

 

What to Wear to Your Photo Session_

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Remember how I use to blog and then stopped… for like two years because I had 3 kids in less than 4 years and have moved to 5 different states in 7 years?! Let’s just overlook that, m’k? Thanks. Moving on.

Without a doubt, one of the issues clients stress out about most when it comes to their session is what to wear. I’m going to start sharing more specific suggestions on what will help you look amazing in your photos.

Keep in mind, confidence is really your best outfit. (Was I really just that cheesy?) So think about this information, but don’t get too bogged down by it. If you decide hate it, and ain’t no one gonna tell you how to dress, well, that’s juuuuust fine. You do you, boo!

Let’s get into it.

Blue is one of the most common colors clients bring in to their sessions (black is probably the most popular, but we’ll get into that in another post). I love blue. Love it, love it, love it. Blue looks amazing on everyone… as long as they choose the right shade!

You’ve probably heard phrases like pale, olive, or dark when talking about your skin, but what about cool, warm, and neutral? Cool, warm, and neutral refer to your skin’s undertones. An easy way to figure out which category you belong to is by looking at the veins in your wrists. Check them out in NATURAL LIGHT, please! Those yellow light bulbs will mess everything up, so over to a window you go. I’ll wait.

Do your veins look blue and/or purple? Then you probably have cool undertones.

Do they look more green than blue? Then you probably have warm undertones.

If you are having a hard time deciding which color they are or if you seem to have some of each, than you are probably neutral.

Okay, do you know into which group you fall? No? Okay, here’s one more test to help you…

Which type of jewelry looks best on you- silver or gold? (Note that I said which looks best on you, not which do you like better!) If silver freshens and brightens you up, than you are probably cool. If gold is makes you look warm and alive, than you probably have warm undertones, m’dear! Look great in both? Well, aren’t you lucky, you neutral skin toned, girl!

Got it now? Let’s move on to figuring out which shade of blue is best for you.

Cool undertone: Bright blue, royal blue, sapphire blue (like this dress, this top, or this jacket)

blue for cool skin tones

 

 

 

Warm undertone: Dark turquoise or warm blues (like this dress)

blue for warm skin tones

 

Neutral undertone: Softened shade of blue, like Carolina blue (like this dress or this sweater)
blue for neutral skin tones

 

 

Don’t panic if your favorite shade of blue doesn’t go with your skin tone. This is mostly to keep in mind for clothing by your face. If you want to wear electric blue heels but your a warm undertones kinda gal, than you wear ‘dem electric blue heels. I have never heard anyone say “wow, those shoes really drain the color from her ankles!” Now go dig through your closet and see if you have anything that complements your skin tone. Take a selfie and see if you like how it looks! Be sure to let me know how it goes on Instagram: @rachelmchardyphoto

Now that you know your best shade, ready to do a little shopping?! Check out some of my favorite items here

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At the Tractor

So…. its been a while- to say the least.  The past 6 months have been my busiest since becoming a mamma.  So, my absence is kind of a good thing.

I have so much that I want to post and share, so I’m going to be trying to update this blog quite a bit in the next little while.  I thought I’d share this shoot that I did down by an old abandoned tractor.

I love the hazy lighting, and the easy summer feel.  Creating this stylized shoot wasn’t too hard because the tractor makes such a statement.  I didn’t want to overwhelm the photos with lots of accessories and junk.  I love how they turned out!

child photography

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Suffer Shaming

I don’t really blog about moral issues, politics, or even my opinion, really.  But here’s the cool thing about writing my own blog- that can change whenever I want it to change.

And today, that will change.

There is a trend I see that is making my head hurt, my heart ache, and my stomach churn.  I don’t know what the technical term for this phenomenon is, so I’m calling it “Suffer Shaming.” It goes something like this:

Facebook/blog post:  “Baby was up all night. I’m so tired!” Bring on the flood of comments and comments of comments….

-Comment: “At least you have a baby to be up with- my baby died.”

-Comment: “At least you got to deliver your baby- I had a stillbirth.”

-Comment: “At least you got to carry your baby- I had a miscarriage.”

-Comment: “At least you got to be pregnant for a while- I’m infertile.”

-Comment: “At least you have a partner that wants to have a family- I’m single.”

-Comment: “At least being single you can sleep through the night- I’m up with my baby all night.”

And around and around we go.

So what’s my problem with this? Is it the sharing of trials? No.  (I can just see the flood of comments from people taking this post the wrong way- people thinking that I’m saying it’s inappropriate to share trials.  That is NOT what I’m saying, peeps!) Is it that I don’t believe some of these heart-wrenching, character trying issues are really a big deal? Absolutely not.  All of those examples above are incredibly trying circumstances.

My problem is with this insane idea that we need to “out suffer” one another. It’s bad enough to belittle someone’s success, do we really have to belittle one another’s trials? The example I gave is just one example of a million different scenarios where I see people feel justified in belittling another’s suffering because they feel their suffering is more significant.

The other issue I have with this is the idea of a suffering hierarchy, as though it is possible to take a trial and quantify it.  To think that someone has the authority to rank anyone’s pain above another person’s pain is just ridiculous.  Here’s the thing: personal suffering is just that- personal.

I get what the shamers  are trying to do here.  I know that in the majority of cases it’s not coming from a place of malice.  Most often, the shamer is trying point out that things could be worse, to get the sufferer to “see the sunny side,” so to speak.  The reality is the person is just coming across as bitter, and the sufferer now feels guilt and shame. 

(And we wonder why people don’t want to talk about their mental health- there’s always someone ready to echo the voice in our head that says we really shouldn’t be feeling the way we feel.)

How do I know this? Because I’ve been on both sides.  Yes, I’m ashamed to say I’ve been the one to “suffer shame” someone.  It wasn’t a good color on me. And I’ve also been on the receiving end of someone’s suffer shaming.  Didn’t care for that side either.

Now I wouldn’t write this blog post if I didn’t have a couple solutions, simple though they may be:

1. Remember that life is a marathon and the goal isn’t to finish first, it’s to help as many people across the finish line as we can.  Cliche, I know.  But even if you are so deep in a trial that you aren’t even walking the marathon anymore, you are crawling, when you notice someone at a complete standstill, don’t beat them over the head with your trials!  If you have the strength to club them with your trial, you have the strength to lift them up.  Even if it’s just an inch further.

2.  Stop hiding behind your computer screen.  Most of the suffer shaming I see happens online (blog posts, Facebook, etc.).  Remember these people who are sharing their trials are REAL people who are ACTUALLY hurting.  Imagine you’re sitting next to that individual while she tearfully shares what’s troubling her soul.  What would you say? Are you as cold and callous as your comment makes you out to be? I hope not. Do you really want to induce shame and guilt on someone when they’re already hurting? I doubt it.  As my mom always says, “There is a kind way to say everything.” Find that kind way. 

Let’s summarize: Suffer shaming- not cool.  Help people.  Be nice.

(Drops mic. Exits stage left.)

P.S. If I feel like your comment is hateful and negative, I’m not going to post it. And I don’t feel the least bit sorry for that.  So all you trolls can get back to your caves and start your own blogs.  

Suffer Shaming

This is the obnoxious face I imagine people make when they “suffer shame” other people.  Just kidding. I’m only including it because, as a photographer, I can’t NOT have a photo with a post…. Also, for the record, this is my brother who is one of the kindest 18 year olds on the planet and does NOT endorse or participate in suffer shaming.  

 

 

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